Nobody gets out of this life without suffering; just some a little more than others.
Dealing With Depression
Mastering Depression and Living the Life You Were Meant to Live
“It’s a part of who I am. I don’t think of it as mental illness or a disorder or a disease. It’s just part of the way I’m wired.”
-Daniel Jeffries
article excerpts by: Daniel Jeffries
Depression…
“I’m talking about the times where you wake up and can’t get out of bed and you feel like nothing will ever go right again and your whole life is meaningless.
It is that absence of being able to envisage that you will ever be cheerful again. The absence of hope. That very deadened feeling, which is so very different from feeling sad. Sad hurts but it’s a healthy feeling. It’s a necessary thing to feel.
That’s the nature of the demon. It’s the absence of feeling. It’s the end of hope. It’s feeling like nothing will ever be good or bright or wonderful ever again. It’s feeling like you’ll never have anything but failure, you’re not good enough for what you want in life and you’ll never get it no matter what you do.
Dealing with depression starts with understanding.
Know thy enemy.
I don’t hate writers and celebrity teeth whitening pushers, not at all. Sure a number of them are outright, cynical hucksters but many of them are probably sincere. And that’s the real problem.
They’re unwitting agents of delusion.
They don’t know they’re creating delusion. They believe their own lies and think they’re helping people.
But it’s all a lie.
What they’re selling is the easy button and there is no easy button here. This is something you will deal with every day of your life.
The faster you realize this the faster you can start to heal yourself and live an authentic life, the life you imagine for yourself.”
I came across this article and strongly recommend reading it in full! I found that Jeffries’ perspective on depression, having experienced it himself, was a very real, honest, and moving explanation. He provides some amazing advice for dealing with depression and getting back to a good, healthy, and healed place.
“The only way to move forward is to acknowledge and address what’s holding you back.”
“Life goes on…
Whether you choose to move on and take a chance in the unknown. Or stay behind, locked in the past, thinking of what could’ve been.”
-Sli
“When I choose to love someone, I am giving them a piece of my soul; but when they leave, they take that piece with them.”
Carrying The Weight Of The World
It is too great a weight to bare carrying the wrongs of the world. It would hurt too much to mourn over the world’s corruption and misfortune. The hurt would engulf you and pull you under; it is too heavy for one’s single shoulders. It is much easier to worry over things of lesser significance, because if you spend your life mourning over the ignorance of human beings it’s not going to get you anywhere. Your disappointment would just continue to grow with humanity’s inability to change their ways. Soon you’d become bitter, depressed, and broken just as the rest of the world.
Comfort
“Please, I don’t need comfort, I just need to be alone.”
-Do you ever feel this way?
Often times we like to be alone when we are sad, and this is perfectly okay. It is important to take time for ourselves to calm down, to think, and to mourn. In the privacy of our own eyes, we can be honest with ourselves and fully express what we are feeling. It is easier when there isn’t the worry that we are being judged.
Letting your emotions out is a key stage in the process of healing; whether it be from major grieving or just from something that is upsetting you. It isn’t healthy to bottle up your emotions. Often this occurs either because people are in denial (the fear of confronting their emotions), or because they don’t want others to see their ‘weakness’.
Take Aways:
- You don’t have to stay and cry in-front of someone
- Someone shouldn’t take offense if you want to be alone
- It is okay if you’re not ready to talk yet
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