Men require intimacy and emotional connection, much more than women. They are conditioned to suppress their feelings, and their girlfriends are often the only way they can get in touch with those parts of themselves. While men may fall in love rarely, they fall harder and faster than women. Once a man’s heart is broken, it takes much longer to heal than that of a woman.

A lot of men truly believe they aren’t “worthy” of the women they want. And not only that, it has created unrealistic expectations when it comes to women. They will drop women at the earliest sign of non-interest, and basically put in as little effort as possible, which I think is ridiculous. They would rather not go through a situation at all than to deal with the sadness that comes at the end when many relationships don’t work out.

If you have self-confidence, and you believe you are worthy of someone’s love- you will find someone. Most guys think they aren’t something* enough: not fit enough, not tall enough, not handsome enough, not rich enough, not interesting enough, etc. Guys think that just because they don’t fit the typical image of what a man is supposed to be like, they don’t deserve a good looking/overall good girl.

Guys have feelings/problems just like girls; they have image problems, and self-confidence problems; guys can have eating-disorders and breakdowns. A lot of it stems from a man’s pride and how it is seen as weak if they admit to having these problems- which it shouldn’t be. There of-course is the male ego, which in truth you have to be gentle with. They want to be able to discuss their desires, concerns, and opinions without fearing an emotional reaction of hurricane proportions.

Men are only afraid of their freedom, if you make them the center of the entire universe, and the sole reason for your happiness. They fear finding out that the person they’re with may not be perfect, because it reveals the imperfections in themselves as well. True intimacy is hard work and they’re afraid of the buried things they might discover when digging everything up. Such men may believe they want a real relationship, but only put in five percent of the effort rather than the full 50 or even more, and foolishly expect something fulfilling and satisfying. They’re waiting for the one who is good enough for them, but no one will ever be. 

Guys are not afraid of commitment- they just need to be very sure. They have feelings, it is just more difficult for them to express them. The male ego is very prevalent, and you need to be gentle with it. Men need freedom and independence; a little leeway. They want to feel like they can discuss their feelings without an overdramatic reaction.

Guys want honest communication; self-sufficient, secure, confident women; a manipulation-free relationship; growth, personal responsibility, and ownership; commitment; and women who know how men want to be treated.

*compiled from a variety of sources