We only pretend
because we don’t want to accept the truth
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and pretending
is less lonely.
Pretending
Is Your Soul Tired?
Are there ever days where you wake up and just feel tired and worn out for no apparent reason? Days where you don’t want to get out of bed, where you don’t feel particularly happy, but then you don’t really have any reason to be sad? Days where you feel less motivated, or are less passionate about the things you normally care about?
I believe that a lot of people feel this way at times. They don’t know why they feel this way, but they do. Sometimes it can make them feel guilty, because they know there’s no reason why. Day after day they put on a smile even though they don’t really mean it. They pretend that everything is fine, although something isn’t quite right, they just can’t put a finger on it…
“Sleep doesn’t help, if it’s your soul that’s tired.”
-a wise soul
I found this quote and I feel that it speaks to this scenario. I believe that in these moments where you feel tired or sad for no apparent reason, it may be because of your soul rather than your physical body. Your soul has lost its energy and needs restoration. Unlike your body, damage to your soul is much more difficult to pin-point. It could be because of a number of reasons, or just one thing that you’re holding onto deep within; maybe something you are refusing to acknowledge. You could still be able to function normally, but that doesn’t mean you are fine from within.
Soul loss:
“Whenever we suffer a physical or emotional trauma it is said that a part of our soul flees the body in order to survive the experience. With every cut and wound, our essence and vitality grows weaker. This process is called ‘Soul Loss’.
When we experience Soul Loss, we begin experiencing feelings of weakness, fatigue, depression, anxiety, and emptiness. We just know that something is missing from our lives, but many of us struggle to discover what exactly that is.
Addictions, eating disorders, identity disorders, post traumatic stress, depression, codependency, narcissism, low self-esteem, and adjustment disorders are all common causes for Soul Loss.”
-Mateo Sol
15 Reasons Your Soul May Be Worn-out:
- lack of self-love
- constantly lying to yourself
- feeling like you’re missing out
- toxic relationships
- holding on to the past
- feeling misunderstood
- worrying about your regrets
- feeling unloved
- lack of motivation
- feeling lost
- searching for closure
- feelings of guilt
- loss of passion
- fear of the future
- a broken heart
30 Life Lessons
- You are not your parents
- Collect moments, not things
- A man is not a financial plan
- Debt isn’t worth it
- Failure is growth
- Comparison is the thief of joy
- Change is good
- Age is just a number
- Body positivity has zero to do with what you believe is attractive
- If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all
- Putting up walls diminishes authenticity
- Exercise contributes to every aspect of your well being (physically, mentally, and emotionally)
- Giving love is one of the best gifts you can give
- You get more from giving more
- Listen to your head
- Grudges cause nothing but pain
- Travel makes you more interesting, insightful, and accepting
- You aren’t always right
- You define your life
- You can’t control others only yourself
- Gratitude multiplies happiness
- Please yourself first
- Self-awareness is more valuable then personal achievement
- Knowledge is power
- If you want something done right, do it yourself
- Your thoughts are like boomerangs (what you put out will come right back to you)
- The easy road is never it
- Honesty is far better than a lie
- If someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time
- Make every day count
Article by: #MILLENNIALLIFECRISIS
You all should really go check out her blog, it is absolutely amazing! Honestly, all the posts are deep, relatable, and true; which sometimes is hard to find.
“Purpose”
What does “purpose” actually mean?
Purpose is an emotion that you cultivate within yourself, and express to others in the form of service.
I’m tired.
I really resonated with this article and I believe many others will as well.
I’m so tired. I’m tired of painting a smile on my face. I’m tired of rejection. I’m tired of trying to explain who I am to people I’ve known my whole life. I’m tired of trying to be a neutral party when one side is so clearly out of line.
I’m tired of everything that I say being wrong. I’m tired of everything that I do not being enough. I’m tired of ending up on the losing end of every discussion. I’m just tired of talking. I’m tired of consistently falling short of everyone’s expectations. If they don’t know me, why do they get to have expectations of me?
I’m tired of considering their feelings when they never consider mine. I’m tired of being told there’s nothing wrong with me, that I’m just making it up. I’m tired of hearing ‘you’re not anxious, you’re just overdramatic’. I’m tired of being told ‘just cheer up’.
I’m so tired of being constantly watched. I don’t need to be inspected and I definitely don’t want my every move, my every action judged. I would love it if people could just let me be… leave me alone…
I’m tired of people taking advantage of me. I’m tired of everyone always wanting help from me but never wanting to help me.
I’m just tired.
Piece by: #MILLENNIALLIFECRISIS
The Choice
Happiness is an emotion that can come and go very quickly or stick around for a little while; it all depends on the situation and its circumstances. Nevertheless, I believe that it mostly depends on us, whether we really want that happiness to stay or not. We might all say that we do, but then something happens and we sort of just lose that happiness. Yet, I think we can choose to keep it longer if we really want to. But, that means we can’t let other circumstances affect us negatively, because that’s where the problem begins. We can choose to be happy no matter what happens however, it can be a very difficult choice. And sometimes that choice comes with sacrifice, but often times when you really look at it, that sacrifice is worth it. Though there will always be things that can temporarily rob us of happiness, we always have the choice to change the situation and bring back that happiness.
But, sometimes looking at things from this perspective can be hard. Even though we have the choice, it doesn’t make it easier. Choosing happiness is hard, and the sacrifices that come with that can make or break a person. So, rather that focusing on choosing happiness, try looking at it as thinking positively. Finding the good in a bad or broken situation. We can’t choose how we feel, but we can choose how we think about the situation. Instead of focusing so much on being happy, we should be focusing on how we can make the most of our lives. And that means embracing the happy with the sad, the triumph with the failure, and each and every moment of our lives, because they are what define us.
Don’t Stop Believin’
The true masterpiece behind the song “Don’t Stop Believin'”- Journey
Compiled from author: Tristar
The song is about the common search for love and the fear of loneliness. The lyrics are focusing on a metaphor for all of the things we use to fill the void in our lives so we don’t feel the pain of emptiness and loneliness.
Yes, it’s a lonely world, and finding someone is hard, but hope makes it all bearable (believing that there is someone there for you). It also addresses escaping from your past, whatever it may be, and looking toward a better tomorrow.
There is a commonality between us all, regardless of our backgrounds, the loneliness of adolescence, escaping from your past.
We are so desperate to not be lonely that we’ll form a relationship simply on the basis of a smile (again metaphorical, though often literal). This scene is repeatedly played out day in and out – we’re all searching for love and companionship.
“Strangers waiting”: We are all strangers to each other, no one has experienced exactly what you have, and there is a certain inherent isolation in that. Everywhere, every town, every person, through all life experience.
Shadows are our own inner darkness (or demons, our deepest secrets). We are haunted by our personal ghosts, and are seeking someone who will understand and relate to us despite who we are. The shadows aren’t really seeking (since shadows aren’t actually anything, but the absence of light), but us seeking someone with whom we can share who we really are.
What we project ourselves to be to the world – how we want people to see us.
“Living just to find emotion”: We are isolated and seeking meaningful relationships, but willing to settle for something to make us feel less empty, so we will fill that void with any sort of connection. Any sort of superficial emotional connection seems to be preferable to being alone in the darkness.
Putting forth a great deal of effort to make those connections, the fact that we often substitute cheap thrills (sex?) for true meaning and connection in relationships.
We will sacrifice a great deal to avoid being lonely, even if the reward is fleeting.
“Some will win, some will lose”: Some will find a true, meaningful relationship, some won’t, some never will.
This cycle goes on and on, just the players change over time.
Don’t give up hope, keep searching for that meaningful relationship regardless of how difficult and trying the search is.
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Life’s Little Wisdoms
Thought this was cute! How about you 😊??
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Everyone wants to see the fortune but never wants to eat the cookie
Everyone wants the reassurance but never wants to do the work that comes with it
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But we all know you have to eat the cookie for the fortune to come true 😉
Hard Things To Hear
I recently had the privilege of listening to some amazing and heart-wrenching stories from people who have either experienced homelessness, faced poverty, or been through the justice system. This is something I took out of that experience…
“You don’t know what you would do if you were actually put in that situation- you simply don’t, and you can’t say you wouldn’t have done the same thing.”
You can not say you know what someone is going through if you have not been there yourself. You can be empathetic and be supportive, but never say you know what it’s like. And never say you wouldn’t have done something, because you’ll never know unless you experience that situation.
This is how we pass snap-judgements. We judge others’ actions without taking the time to understand their motives or the situation.
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You are a family of five that is living in poverty. You have just used the last of your paycheck since getting fired from your already low-paying job. You have three young children and a sick partner to feed and take care of- How will you manage? Getting a new job takes time and involves lots of paperwork. What if it’s too late by the time you find one? But wait! You are offered something. It involving dealing illegal drugs- will you take it?
There are three turnouts to this scenario …
- You take the job and get enough money to keep your family alive
- You take the job, get caught, and are sent to jail- your family starves
- You don’t take the job and you and your family starve to death
If this was your last option to keep your family from starving, if this was the only way, you can’t say you wouldn’t have taken it!
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If you yourself just read about a case involving a man caught selling drugs, your first thought would probably be ‘what a horrible person’ or ‘who is stupid enough to get involved with that’ or ‘he deserves what he’ll get’. But, what if the man convicted did that solely to save his family. You never know, and you can’t say you wouldn’t have done the exact same thing.
Trusting Time
“Give time time”
…Such a simple phrase, yet one that contains so much wisdom. Honestly, we get so caught up in planning for the future that we forget how to live in the present. We’re always thinking about what comes next rather than what is happening right now. We’re never able to take life day by day because of the way our society works- it’s nearly impossible!
Give time time. So what does that mean? Well, it means that we need to trust that things will happen when they’re suppose to happen. We need to believe that the universe has our best interests in mind. Everything happens for a reason, whether we figure out that reason in our lifetime or not. We need to give our life time to play out, leave time for things to happen, and give time time to work itself out. We are not the masters of time, we can’t control it, and we have no say in our ultimate fate.
We’ve become so impatient, not wanting to give time time. We want everything now. Society is becoming faster and faster. We no longer have to wait- we get results instantaneously. But, that means that we are getting used to having everything we want exactly when we want it. We don’t like to wait, we don’t want to work for things, and most of all, we crave a reassurance that the unpredictability of life just can’t give us.
You can’t speed time up or slow it down, so enjoy your wait, because that’s the best part. Once you have what you want, there’s nothing more to do. When there’s no more wait, you realize you’ve waisted what could have been something amazing and memorable just worrying about what was coming next.
…So, patience and trust is key in-order to change our mindsets. Time might be taking it’s sweet time, but it’ll happen if it’s meant to be.
Hope's Corner 