Don’t Wait. Live for the Now.

If you’re only living to get to the end of the journey, you miss the whole point. It’s silly really; it’s like you are reading a book but you skip everything in the middle just to get to the glorious ending. Yet, you’ll find it’s not that glorious after all. Although you want to know how it ends, if you don’t read what happens in the middle you miss the whole story. And what’s the point in knowing how something ends if you don’t even know why it ended that way.

We all want to believe that at the end there’ll be something great. We believe the end is the reward for all our hard work. But if you live like that you will not enjoy the end, because true enjoyment only comes with that sense of fulfillment. And you will not be fulfilled if you put off everything in your life in hopes that you’ll finally be able to get what you truly desire once the formalities are out of the way.

Don’t live according to societal standards; don’t make yourself wait for happiness. Because you’ll wake up all those years later and realize that you don’t feel very different from when you started. We all have this idea of reaching for something. We say okay I have to do this, and this, and this; I have to take this many years of schooling, go to college, get that job, earn that acceptable paycheck, find that forever partner… then after all that I can finally begin my life because I am “stable” and fit into the societal standard of readiness.

It doesn’t have to be that way. We are all pressured to live according to that order. We are groomed from the time we are born and we are fed this nonsense from society and the culture that surrounds us. It is expected of us to live this way to some degree, and if we don’t fit into the categories already created for us before we’re even born, then we’re doing something wrong.

Just don’t wait to live your life.

Because you’ll want some of it back.

Everything Happens For A Reason

Believing that everything happens for a reason isn’t a coping method, or simply reassurance in a bad situation, or not wanting to accept the reality, it is more about finding the hope in an otherwise hopeless situation.

Some people might think bad things just happen, or they are just simply accidents- there’s no reason.

Maybe they’re right, but I don’t necessarily believe that’s true…

Thoughts from wise souls:

“I believe “everything happens for a reason” because I think that everybody shapes their own individual path by the choices they make every day. At times, it may seem that certain events was destined to be in your life but really I think it was all the choices you made before that put you into that moment. Everything that happens to a person affects them whether it’s big or small and shapes their entire life. I don’t really think that there is a destiny or fate, but I do believe all the choices you had made before has a reason or purpose in shaping your individual path through life.”

-wise soul #1

“I believe that everything happens for a reason so it depends as you see the situation. Life is full of positive things but many people always see in them as bad. Everything comes at the right time and you should enjoy it. Every day is a challenge to overcome and I think that you should see the good side things like gifts, lessons, or opportunities to have a better life. Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. Nothing happens by good luck. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart. Finally, if you love someone tell them, you never know what tomorrow may have in store.”

-wise soul #2

“Yes, I do believe that everything happen for a reason. Actually, what will be happened in future, it’s depends on our present activities. If we plant good seeds in soil and take good care of it, we can expect a good tree with fruits and flowers. Like this, if we do something good in present, we can get good result in future. If we started to believe on our fate, there is nothing left to do with life. We make our own fortune. We have to work hard to become successful and make everything good in our lives.”

-wise soul #3

“Yes, I do, everything happens in life, it happens for a reason, but sometimes you don’t know the reason. I don’t really live that in my life but I believe. I think, because it’s true, they live a lot of examples like that. Yes, I agree with the authors when they say that there can be danger in believing everything happens for a reason. Yes, I agree with the authors when they say that it is “karma” that punishes the bad and reward the good. I don’t know why, but I believe that everything you see that happens, it always happens for a reason.”

-wise soul #4

“You might not know it now and it might not seem like it for a long time- but you’ll know when you know. Maybe your life isn’t what affects it, maybe the horrible thing that happened changed someone’s life that you didn’t even know. Maybe hearing a story or seeing a picture sent someone off the path they were on and onto a new and path of salvation. Life can be tough, and it can throw so many curve balls. But yes, I believe that everything happens for a reason.”

-wise soul #5

THE RED STRING

THE LEGEND OF THE RED STRING OF JAPAN

Article by: LUCIA ORTIZ MONASTERIO

According to this myth, everyone’s pinky finger is tied to an invisible red string that will lead him or her to another person with whom they will make history.

For the Japanese, who know so much and intuit more, human relations are predestined by a red string that the gods tie to the pinky fingers of those who find each other in life. Legend has it that the two people connected by this thread will have an important story, regardless of the time, place or circumstances. The red string might get tangled, contracted or stretched, as surely often happens, but it can never break.

This legend, so much more aesthetic than that of the twin souls, occurs when it is discovered that the ulnar artery connects the heart with the pinky finger (which is the same reason why in many cultures promises are made by two people crossing their pinkies). The thin vein running from heart to hand extends through the invisible world, to end its course in someone else’s heart. But unlike other amorous superstitions, the Japanese one isn’t limited to couples, or a single person who one is destined to find. It speaks of a type of arterial ramification that emerges from a finger toward all those with whom we will make history and all those whom we will help in one way or another. For the ontological imagination, the myth of the red string is a way to understand our itinerary of encounters as a predetermined plot where couples’ relationships, the intimate brushes against someone, and all the little stories we crisscross with others are neither random triumphs nor accidents, but part of a scarlet tapestry whose threads were given to us when we were born but which we knit ourselves.

One Japanese legend tells of an old man who lives in the moon and comes out every night to search among kin spirits to reunite them on Earth, who have something to learn from each other, and when he finds them he ties a red thread to them so they find their paths. Thus, our red strings end in someone else. Accepting this, or at least considering it, is a secret consolation: it is as if our steps — stubborn as they may sometimes seem — knew the route and geography of our multiple amorous destinations, and therefore there were no “slips” or poor decisions.

There are two memorable moments in cinema that pay tribute to the subtle and mysterious aesthetic of this conductive read string: the first is the film Dolls by Takeshi Kitano, and the second Sayonara, by Joshua Logan. In both we find out at the end that the couples were united by the red string of destiny, and that everything that occurred before was nothing more than a plot through the route of string that would end up reuniting them. “Journeys end in lovers meeting,” William Shakespeare said.

All cultures have pondered what it is that governs the individual path of each person, and among them many have conceived an astronomical thread that predicts their paths. Think of the Moirai of the Greeks, who hold a thread of gold for each person on earth and cut it suddenly when his or her death is due, or in the thread, also red by the way, of the Cabala which connects the believers to the holy land of Jerusalem. It’s logical to think that if life is conceived as a great text (from the Latin textus: knitting, connection), the strings are the main material of men to rasterize their daily lives. To “lose the thread” is now a universal expression to refer to practical or even existential deviation.

Thus, the legend of the red thread tells us that within the labyrinth of encounters and shared stories there is a predesigned and perfect path, a scarlet string which, like that of Ariadne, connects us with our irrevocable destination placed at the edge of another string that will also lead to us.

Character

“Ernest Becker wrote that our fundamental character structure is a vital construct, a necessary fiction, a “story we tell ourselves about ourselves”. Essentially: mental health and personal meaning emerges from an autobiographical narrative that serves us and suffuses our lives with signification. A personal crisis is when the story you tell yourself about yourself is no longer serving you. We are storytelling animals and our very thoughts are structured by our self-narratives. Thus, mental health breakthroughs lie in understanding the importance of finessing our personal agency in crafting a story about ourselves that serves us, a personal mythology that allows us to show up in the world in service and grace. So go out there and craft your myth.”

-Jason Silva

My Little List

When my life was falling apart and all I could think about was how lonely I was and how everyone around me seemed so happy and in love, a dear friend of mine told me to every night before I fall asleep, take a second to write down a quality that I would want in a future partner, that way once I built this list I could start to look for these qualities in people I meet. He said that this list would help me to know when the person is right and worth my time.

I recommend doing this if you are feeling lonely, or you just feel stuck in terms of your love life. It is something simple, yet very reassuring. It’s a small act that gave me hope, and something I wanted to share with all of you. 😊

Pride Analysis

The invisibility of the cracks in the rocks foster the illusion of permanence—a false pride of perfection and durability. If the cracks were obvious, the rocks would appear imperfect, weak and at the mercy of the elements. The poem refers to a stubborn pride, impervious and unfeeling.

The poet is comparing this with the way that a person can be hurt and never show it; but their internal damage is such that at some later date they may suddenly crumble.

The poet chose a seal to catalyze the crack—the most natural and innocuous-seeming creatures, feelings, or things can have an effect when opposed to stubborn elements.

The poet thinks people are rock-like and that people must be adaptable or they, too, will break. Rocks in their motionless state seem safe and people sometimes stagnate under a similar illusion of security.

You have almost certainly known people who seemed to be able to deal with what life threw at them, but then suddenly and unexpectedly ‘went to pieces’. This is what the poem is talking about.

-a wise soul

That Girl Over There.. Yeah Her.. She’s Just As Lonely As You

A lot of people are just as lonely as you are, believe it or not.

With loneliness, we tend to forget about how a lot of people struggle with it at some point in their lives. Whether it be the broken down 15 year old girl who is just figuring out love and trying not to get her heart broken, or the college boy who misses his friends and family and tries to hide his pain with a big smile and goofy antics, or the mom who is stuck in a loveless marriage afraid of what her life would be like without the routine she’s known for so long.

Loneliness is something we all share; as humans we long for that connection. And when we don’t have that connection, especially when we watch others that do have it, it can become overwhelming and saddening. Loneliness can come in many different forms, such as the small moments where we feel alone or the more serious and longer periods of sadness that can lead to worse things.

If I’m being honest here, I don’t know how to fix loneliness, rather you can’t really “fix” it in the first place; there is just simply nothing that I can tell you that is going to “fix” your loneliness. However, even if I don’t know your exact situation, what I can do is tell you that I understand what it is like. And from my experience, when you know someone that is struggling with loneliness or even just someone that you’ve noticed is a little down lately, just make an effort to talk to them- AND HUGS! I think some of the most supportive and helpful things I’ve ever received were hugs from people who I knew understood.

It Gets Hard Sometimes :(

You know, it’s hard sometimes to watch everyone around you be happy while you’re just sort-of there. All you want is someone to touch, to talk to, to laugh with… someone to love, for someone to love you. You are stuck watching everyone around you have the one thing you’ve always wanted.

WORDS OF WISDOM:

“A lot of personal worries and disappointments begin from making comparisons with others. And you’re destined to lose that challenge because of one major reason. You know all about yourself, your bad and good sides, your fortunes and misfortunes etc. BUT YOU KNOW ALMOST NOTHING ABOUT THEM. That makes you lose and feel disappointed. You see only the good side of these couple’s relationships, but you know nothing about the darkest sides of their bond. Who knows, maybe, if you knew that, you’d be very surprised and think otherwise…”

-Marseille Zalalov

Decisions In Life

-Decisions In Life-

One decision can set you on a whole new life course. Think about that for a second… There are several options with each choice we make. Can you think of a time when you wondered what would have happened if you had chosen something different? In an alternate reality, choosing the other option would have created a whole new you with a whole different life path. It is hard to imagine sometimes.

Each decision we make is connected, each choice shapes us into the people we are now. Even one different choice could change our lives completely, even if it is the simplest thing. The smallest choices can have the biggest impacts; more than we can ever know. If you have had a time like this, do you ever wonder if making the other choice would’ve created a better reality then the one you’re in now? Do you have any regrets over that choice?

That leads us into the question of are regrets really real? This sounds like a weird question doesn’t it? You might be thinking “well of course they are real, people have regrets all the time”! However, when you think about regrets, will you know you’ll have them after making a decision? Sometimes, but not always. By regretting a choice will it change the outcome? No. Do you believe everything works out the way it is meant to be? I do.

Having a fear of regrets can hold you back in life. It can prevent you from taking risks and truly living. Instead of worrying about life, just live it! Even if you end up regretting one choice, by living in the moment, you won’t regret your whole life in the end. So, regrets may be real after all, but that doesn’t mean you have to give into them; that is the way I like to think of it.

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